Q moving on and on (2025)
“'Cause I got issues, I got problems / But you love me so we let it fly”
These lines touch on acceptance in relationships, one of the most important ingredients of a healthy, lasting connection according to both modern psychology and Buddhism. But how do we actually learn acceptance? It starts with recognizing our own flaws—and continues with reshaping our expectations of others.
Our expectations in relationships are shaped by what we learn over time. From an early age, many of us absorb the image of a Western romantic, heterosexual relationship, the principles of a transactional capitalist system and, as is the case for many of us, the moral values of the Judeo-Christian tradition.
For some dynamics this framework works quite well. However, others need to break free from these images and expectations to truly experience themselves as romantic and sexual beings, and even to find the right partner. Today, there's a growing conversation around the decolonization of love and relationships—an intriguing concept.
Whether Q intended today’s song "moving on and on" with all this in mind or if he meant it more like psychoanalyst Peter Schneider, who suggests that a successful relationship is simply a cheerful muddling through is still up for debate.
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